Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Cure for Wardrobe Burn Out!
I was doing my daily check of one of my favorite blogs, The Sartorialist, when I happened upon the daily post for today (Tuesday June 23, 2010) depicting a cool cleaning lady with dread locks and piercings looking absolutely stunning in her 'institution' aqua-hued uniform while cleaning at Pitti Uomo in Florence (of course, even the cleaning crew would be stylish in Florence!).
One of the comments to this post mentioned this year-long fundraising project, The Uniform Project, where a woman wears the same black dress every single day for a year and is photographed in it each day. To keep it interesting, she styles the dress 365 different ways using scarves, belts, collars, vests, wraps, shirts, sweaters, jackets, etc. You can get a video flash of all 365 styles on the website, which is cool and very inspiring. It goes a little fast (I wish it would slow down so I could really examine each look), but is so inspiring.
It really gets you thinking about how you can use accessories to create various looks out of what you already have. I do this all the time, but seeing this video really got me thinking even more creatively. I think it would help anyone appreciate the power of accessories.
Check it out and if it inspires you to try something new, leave a comment or email me a pic at instantstylist@gmail.com.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Not-So-Teeny Bikinis and Non-Fugly Flats
Q.
"Ok, I have two separate questions. Answer one or both and I'll be grateful.
First, I am 31 and living in Dallas and don't want a one piece or a teeny bikini (hello I have kids but still think I am hot). I kinda have a boyish figure (read I'm petite with not much there on top) and am short waisted and long legged. And I am 5' 5". What kind of swimsuit flatters and where do I find it? I hate the ones with the high cut legs, need enough coverage of the butt that I don't get a wedgie and would like it to stay on and look cute.
2nd question. I have a messed up foot and sadly had to give up my love affair with heels last year. So what shoes do I wear when I really want to dress it up, and what shoes do I wear with jeans or shorts? (seriously besides flip flops and tennis shoes I am at a loss)."
- Bridget, Dallas, TX
A.
These are both fantastic questions, Bridget. I think a lot of ladies can relate to what you asked and that the answers are actually more simple than you may think.
To address your first question about what kind of bikini will flatter your athletic/boyish figure, let's address each component that concerns you.
a. Creating Curves
You mentioned that you had "not much there on top," which means that you want to choose a bikini top that will give the illusion of a fuller bust to balance you out. There are a few ways to do this. One option is to opt for a bikini top that includes a ruffle. The strapless ruffled bandeau top below, will give a fullness to your bust area, while also adding a feminine touch (which will girlify a boyish figure), and the bandeau top makes you look wider up top because it runs horizontally across the body rather than diagonally (like a halter top strap would).
I can't seem to find the store where the above bikini comes from, but I have found another bikini top option (a pleated bandeau top bikini, which provides the same curve-creating services) available at J. Crew below:
This adorable striped bikini (below), also available at J. Crew, is yet another way to create curves up top. By wearing horizontal stripes on your bikini top, you are drawing the eye horizontally and balancing out the top part of your body with the bottom half. It's another optical illusion, but it works. (Note: I have the exact opposite body type as you -- I'm very curvy -- so these bikini options would, unfortunately, not be good choices for me).
Now, to your next concern -- a bikini bottom that offers enough coverage, but still shows off your hot body, but won't give you a wedgie.
b. Enough There on the Derriere
Because you are short-waisted and long-legged, you are part of the lucky few who can actually pull off boy short style bikini bottoms and not have them chop you in half or shorten your leg line. However, for a boyish shape, it really is more flattering to opt for something a bit more feminine than your typical sporty boy short bottoms. And make sure to go for bottoms that offer enough coverage across the butt. Choose brief, style bikini shorts rather than those super young, flimsy, low-cut boy shorts that like to hike up into your butt crack after one wear.
I often choose to buy more quality bikini bottoms because the fabric is more sturdy, holds you in place, and doesn't creep and crawl. Then, I pair it with fun tops (which is easier to do when you have a small bust than a large bust like I do because there's less risk and tops are more likely to fit you no matter what.
A ruffled boy short like the one below, once again, from J. Crew, is super cute and has a retro appeal. If it is too much to wear a ruffled bikini top AND a ruffled bikini bottom (which I totally understand isn't for everyone), a ruffled bikini bottom would be great paired with a strapless bandeau top that is either pleated like the one above or is cinched in the middle, giving the impression that you have boobies (see style below).
Here's a J Crew bandeau that would look great with the ruffled bottoms (but the bottoms in the photo below also seem to offer good coverage and look adorable as well):
And here's a cute ruffled bandeau bikini top from Target:
I hope I helped answer your bathing suit questions. Now onto part 2 of your question.
I've pasted it here so readers can remember what you asked:
"I have a messed up foot and sadly had to give up my love affair with heels last year. So what shoes do I wear when I really want to dress it up, and what shoes do I wear with jeans or shorts? (seriously besides flip flops and tennis shoes I am at a loss)."
a. Dressy Flats
Funny enough, I'm in a better position to answer this question than you might think. I currently have a fractured foot and am wearing a walking cast boot thing and will soon be transitioning from the cast to a regular shoe while it continues to heal. Lately, I have been to all kinds of events in this state, where one would normally wear heels and yet, I can't wear heels right now. I have to wear a flat shoe. But -- I haven't had to give up on my sense of style for one minute (and neither should you!).
My solution has been to wear brogues (oxfords), which, here in NYC is a very popular shoe style, but in Dallas does not seem to be in stores (yet). When I was in Dallas over the winter, I was shocked how none of the stores had oxfords or spectators or saddle shoes! Maybe they have jumped on the bandwagon by now, but if they haven't, here's your chance to be ahead of the curve.
Probably one of the cutest and least expensive ways to get the look of the oxford shoe (without the high price tag that usually comes with it -- usually $250 and up) is to go for saddle shoes. They are just starting to gain in popularity among the fashionable dandies here in NYC (I have a cute black and white pair and am just dying to order a brown and white pair, but my husband has put me on a shopping hold for the moment). These saddle shoes aren't the clunky, costumey ones that you're thinking of from the movie Grease, though they do sell them, so watch out what you are buying!
The best source for saddle shoes is Muffy's. And the best-looking ladies saddle shoe they sell has a leather sole and is absolutely PRECIOUS on your foot. I have a pair so I know!!! (I've made the link to Muffy's go directly to the swingsaddle oxford, which is what they're called. They cost $115, but are well worth it. Here's a pic of the red and white version:
Another, more sedate style that costs less ($59.95 on the Steve Madden site) is Steve Madden's Tuxxedo Oxford, which comes in three different colors (below) and in black and white spectator (not shown) and is fabulous (I totally want all of them!):
Both the oxfords and the saddle shoes can go with everything -- skirts, jeans, pants, shorts, leggings, capris, tights, dresses. They might possibly be the most versatile shoe out there right now AND, when wearing them out, you get to feel like a modern Marlene Dietrich among a bunch of poor, aching ladies stumbling around on their stilts, er, I mean, stillettos.
And you know what they say: Men invented high heels so that ladies couldn't run away from them. ;)
Hey - I like a high heel as much as the next lady, but now that I've spent more than 6 weeks having to wear only flat shoes (read: stylish oxfords), I realize there's some grace and sophistication in brogues that you just don't feel teetering and tottering around on your toes all night. I'm just sayin'....
b. Casual Flats
I was a punk rocker in high school (in Texas) and all the preppy kids used to wear deck shoes, which I used to think were the ugliest shoe known to man (or woman). Then, 12 years ago, I moved to NYC and was exposed to this wonderful thing called Northeastern Seaboard Preppy Style and became fascinated by it. And now, I am moderately obsessed with it and find myself wanting to incorporate it into almost all of my wardrobe. This includes being obsessed over the following pair of DARLING Sperry Montauk Boat Shoes ($90) that I have been trying to find a way to secretly buy behind my husband's back, but can't figure out how I will explain them once they're here. (Hint: my birthday is July 9th). But I digress...here is the shoe...
This is a great style for just tooling around in the summer and is far more interesting than flip flops or tennis shoes (or as they say in the northeast, sneakers). You can wear it, again, with everything (shorts, jeans, pants, skirts, dresses, etc.). Also, since you're in Texas, you'll appreciate the fact that they cover the toes, which is very important during the summer there because in all the overly air-conditioned stores and restaurants, you get popsicle toes in flip flops!
Also, there is, of course, the classic ballet flat (which, for a time, I became very bored with because I saw them ALL over the place on EVERYONE). But, it can be a charming style if you pick something interesting. My favorite maker of ballet flats is French Sole New York. They have an entire (albeit tiny) store, floor to ceiling, dedicated to ONLY FLATS. Bridget, you would be in heaven! (Zappos also carries FSNY).
No recommendation for flats would be complete without turning you onto a Brazilian brand Melissa - purveyor of amazingly stylish plastic shoes (see picture above). Melissa offers all kinds of collections where they have collaborated with a famous fashion designer, such as Vivienne Westwood or Alexandre Herchcovitch. They do offer heels as well, but have many awesome flat styles -- and the best part is that they are ALL WATERPROOF! And even though they're plastic, I wear them to nice and casual events alike (everyone always thinks they're patent leather).
The only catch? There is no Melissa store in the U.S. (yet) and they are working on Americans being able to shop on their website, so, for now, you have to be savvy when it comes to finding who carries Melissa. Zappos is currently carrying some of Vivienne Westwood's ultra cute, tiny peep-toe flats in several colors. See the shoe in red below:
Well, Bridget, I hope I gave you some useful answers to your questions. Please feel free to comment or ask anything else. Thanks so much for trusting Instant Stylist with your fashion dilemmas! The pleasure was all mine. (And now, I really want to go shopping!!!!)
"Ok, I have two separate questions. Answer one or both and I'll be grateful.
First, I am 31 and living in Dallas and don't want a one piece or a teeny bikini (hello I have kids but still think I am hot). I kinda have a boyish figure (read I'm petite with not much there on top) and am short waisted and long legged. And I am 5' 5". What kind of swimsuit flatters and where do I find it? I hate the ones with the high cut legs, need enough coverage of the butt that I don't get a wedgie and would like it to stay on and look cute.
2nd question. I have a messed up foot and sadly had to give up my love affair with heels last year. So what shoes do I wear when I really want to dress it up, and what shoes do I wear with jeans or shorts? (seriously besides flip flops and tennis shoes I am at a loss)."
- Bridget, Dallas, TX
A.
These are both fantastic questions, Bridget. I think a lot of ladies can relate to what you asked and that the answers are actually more simple than you may think.
To address your first question about what kind of bikini will flatter your athletic/boyish figure, let's address each component that concerns you.
a. Creating Curves
You mentioned that you had "not much there on top," which means that you want to choose a bikini top that will give the illusion of a fuller bust to balance you out. There are a few ways to do this. One option is to opt for a bikini top that includes a ruffle. The strapless ruffled bandeau top below, will give a fullness to your bust area, while also adding a feminine touch (which will girlify a boyish figure), and the bandeau top makes you look wider up top because it runs horizontally across the body rather than diagonally (like a halter top strap would).
I can't seem to find the store where the above bikini comes from, but I have found another bikini top option (a pleated bandeau top bikini, which provides the same curve-creating services) available at J. Crew below:
This adorable striped bikini (below), also available at J. Crew, is yet another way to create curves up top. By wearing horizontal stripes on your bikini top, you are drawing the eye horizontally and balancing out the top part of your body with the bottom half. It's another optical illusion, but it works. (Note: I have the exact opposite body type as you -- I'm very curvy -- so these bikini options would, unfortunately, not be good choices for me).
Now, to your next concern -- a bikini bottom that offers enough coverage, but still shows off your hot body, but won't give you a wedgie.
b. Enough There on the Derriere
Because you are short-waisted and long-legged, you are part of the lucky few who can actually pull off boy short style bikini bottoms and not have them chop you in half or shorten your leg line. However, for a boyish shape, it really is more flattering to opt for something a bit more feminine than your typical sporty boy short bottoms. And make sure to go for bottoms that offer enough coverage across the butt. Choose brief, style bikini shorts rather than those super young, flimsy, low-cut boy shorts that like to hike up into your butt crack after one wear.
I often choose to buy more quality bikini bottoms because the fabric is more sturdy, holds you in place, and doesn't creep and crawl. Then, I pair it with fun tops (which is easier to do when you have a small bust than a large bust like I do because there's less risk and tops are more likely to fit you no matter what.
A ruffled boy short like the one below, once again, from J. Crew, is super cute and has a retro appeal. If it is too much to wear a ruffled bikini top AND a ruffled bikini bottom (which I totally understand isn't for everyone), a ruffled bikini bottom would be great paired with a strapless bandeau top that is either pleated like the one above or is cinched in the middle, giving the impression that you have boobies (see style below).
Here's a J Crew bandeau that would look great with the ruffled bottoms (but the bottoms in the photo below also seem to offer good coverage and look adorable as well):
And here's a cute ruffled bandeau bikini top from Target:
I hope I helped answer your bathing suit questions. Now onto part 2 of your question.
I've pasted it here so readers can remember what you asked:
"I have a messed up foot and sadly had to give up my love affair with heels last year. So what shoes do I wear when I really want to dress it up, and what shoes do I wear with jeans or shorts? (seriously besides flip flops and tennis shoes I am at a loss)."
a. Dressy Flats
Funny enough, I'm in a better position to answer this question than you might think. I currently have a fractured foot and am wearing a walking cast boot thing and will soon be transitioning from the cast to a regular shoe while it continues to heal. Lately, I have been to all kinds of events in this state, where one would normally wear heels and yet, I can't wear heels right now. I have to wear a flat shoe. But -- I haven't had to give up on my sense of style for one minute (and neither should you!).
My solution has been to wear brogues (oxfords), which, here in NYC is a very popular shoe style, but in Dallas does not seem to be in stores (yet). When I was in Dallas over the winter, I was shocked how none of the stores had oxfords or spectators or saddle shoes! Maybe they have jumped on the bandwagon by now, but if they haven't, here's your chance to be ahead of the curve.
Probably one of the cutest and least expensive ways to get the look of the oxford shoe (without the high price tag that usually comes with it -- usually $250 and up) is to go for saddle shoes. They are just starting to gain in popularity among the fashionable dandies here in NYC (I have a cute black and white pair and am just dying to order a brown and white pair, but my husband has put me on a shopping hold for the moment). These saddle shoes aren't the clunky, costumey ones that you're thinking of from the movie Grease, though they do sell them, so watch out what you are buying!
The best source for saddle shoes is Muffy's. And the best-looking ladies saddle shoe they sell has a leather sole and is absolutely PRECIOUS on your foot. I have a pair so I know!!! (I've made the link to Muffy's go directly to the swingsaddle oxford, which is what they're called. They cost $115, but are well worth it. Here's a pic of the red and white version:
Another, more sedate style that costs less ($59.95 on the Steve Madden site) is Steve Madden's Tuxxedo Oxford, which comes in three different colors (below) and in black and white spectator (not shown) and is fabulous (I totally want all of them!):
Both the oxfords and the saddle shoes can go with everything -- skirts, jeans, pants, shorts, leggings, capris, tights, dresses. They might possibly be the most versatile shoe out there right now AND, when wearing them out, you get to feel like a modern Marlene Dietrich among a bunch of poor, aching ladies stumbling around on their stilts, er, I mean, stillettos.
And you know what they say: Men invented high heels so that ladies couldn't run away from them. ;)
Hey - I like a high heel as much as the next lady, but now that I've spent more than 6 weeks having to wear only flat shoes (read: stylish oxfords), I realize there's some grace and sophistication in brogues that you just don't feel teetering and tottering around on your toes all night. I'm just sayin'....
b. Casual Flats
I was a punk rocker in high school (in Texas) and all the preppy kids used to wear deck shoes, which I used to think were the ugliest shoe known to man (or woman). Then, 12 years ago, I moved to NYC and was exposed to this wonderful thing called Northeastern Seaboard Preppy Style and became fascinated by it. And now, I am moderately obsessed with it and find myself wanting to incorporate it into almost all of my wardrobe. This includes being obsessed over the following pair of DARLING Sperry Montauk Boat Shoes ($90) that I have been trying to find a way to secretly buy behind my husband's back, but can't figure out how I will explain them once they're here. (Hint: my birthday is July 9th). But I digress...here is the shoe...
This is a great style for just tooling around in the summer and is far more interesting than flip flops or tennis shoes (or as they say in the northeast, sneakers). You can wear it, again, with everything (shorts, jeans, pants, skirts, dresses, etc.). Also, since you're in Texas, you'll appreciate the fact that they cover the toes, which is very important during the summer there because in all the overly air-conditioned stores and restaurants, you get popsicle toes in flip flops!
Also, there is, of course, the classic ballet flat (which, for a time, I became very bored with because I saw them ALL over the place on EVERYONE). But, it can be a charming style if you pick something interesting. My favorite maker of ballet flats is French Sole New York. They have an entire (albeit tiny) store, floor to ceiling, dedicated to ONLY FLATS. Bridget, you would be in heaven! (Zappos also carries FSNY).
No recommendation for flats would be complete without turning you onto a Brazilian brand Melissa - purveyor of amazingly stylish plastic shoes (see picture above). Melissa offers all kinds of collections where they have collaborated with a famous fashion designer, such as Vivienne Westwood or Alexandre Herchcovitch. They do offer heels as well, but have many awesome flat styles -- and the best part is that they are ALL WATERPROOF! And even though they're plastic, I wear them to nice and casual events alike (everyone always thinks they're patent leather).
The only catch? There is no Melissa store in the U.S. (yet) and they are working on Americans being able to shop on their website, so, for now, you have to be savvy when it comes to finding who carries Melissa. Zappos is currently carrying some of Vivienne Westwood's ultra cute, tiny peep-toe flats in several colors. See the shoe in red below:
Well, Bridget, I hope I gave you some useful answers to your questions. Please feel free to comment or ask anything else. Thanks so much for trusting Instant Stylist with your fashion dilemmas! The pleasure was all mine. (And now, I really want to go shopping!!!!)
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Tuesday, June 8, 2010
No Mo Camel Toe!
Back in February, I was shopping at Ricky's NYC (sort of a Spencer's Gifts meets Sephora) when I came across Cuchini pads. The cheeky packaging, featuring a bikini-clad, lipstick-wearing camel (above) is what first got my attention. I thought it was hilarious -- and pretty genius -- considering that there are many occasions (especially during swimsuit season) when the dreaded CT (Camel Toe) makes an unwelcome appearance. (See also pilates, yoga, and the gym)
Plus, the package actually says, "Our lips are sealed." So clever and bold! Love it!
Cuchini pads are simply thin, stick-on pads that adhere to whatever you're wearing (swimsuit, yoga pants, underwear) that prevent your thong from tucking into your taco. Check out the site (if only to get laugh): http://www.cuchini.com. The website is pretty entertaining and actually has a "Celebrity Camel Toes" page (pics, including close-ups of celebrities with CT) and an option to ANONYMOUSLY send Cuchini to a CT sufferer in need! Brilliant!
Please let Instant Stylist know if you've ever tried them before; what you think about them; and whether you would ever anonymously send Cuchini to someone (or how you would feel if you received one)!
Saturday, May 29, 2010
WHAT GOES WITH SEERSUCKER?
Q.
"Does this green and white seersucker [jacket] go with these baggy white pants? And is it okay to wear a shirt and tie with seersucker?"
- John, NYC
A.
Yes. Seersucker jackets always look good with white slacks, as well as tan/khaki, and even well-fitting jeans -- and the pants you are wearing in the picture are just fine and will look more spruced up once you're wearing your shoes and have the whole outfit pulled together.
SHOE CHOICE?
I know this wasn't part of John's question, but I think it is worth mentioning.
The most classic choice of shoe for this summery men's outfit would be a white (or even light tan) buck or brogue. But it can also look dashing with a light brown brogue/wingtip or a summery two-tone spectator (in this case, I would go brown and white over black and white...but, unfortunately, it's not like most of us have access to a trust fund, so whichever you have will usually do the trick).
SEERSUCKER AND TIES?
Seersucker jackets look absolutely charming paired with a shirt and tie. The most classic combination is a white button down shirt with a striped tie or bowtie (big bold stripes that are markedly wider than the seersucker stripes). Great color combinations would be red and navy, navy and yellow, navy and gold, orange and navy, green and navy. Brooks Brothers carries a range of collegiate stripe ties and bowties that make a perfect pairing for seersucker. Here are some examples:
See how nice it looks in action?
OR SANS TIE:
On the flipside, a seersucker jacket can also be worn in a dashing manner without any tie at all. A simple button down shirt worn with the collar unbuttoned and no tie looks simply handsome and allows the wearer a little more freedom to experiment with the shirt color -- in addition to crisp, classic white, one could go with light blue, yellow, or even pink.
And this 'no tie' version of a seersucker jacket outfit could be worn with khakis, light colored linen trousers, well-tailored jeans, or even bermuda shorts and stylish deck shoes or saddle shoes.
"Does this green and white seersucker [jacket] go with these baggy white pants? And is it okay to wear a shirt and tie with seersucker?"
- John, NYC
A.
Yes. Seersucker jackets always look good with white slacks, as well as tan/khaki, and even well-fitting jeans -- and the pants you are wearing in the picture are just fine and will look more spruced up once you're wearing your shoes and have the whole outfit pulled together.
SHOE CHOICE?
I know this wasn't part of John's question, but I think it is worth mentioning.
The most classic choice of shoe for this summery men's outfit would be a white (or even light tan) buck or brogue. But it can also look dashing with a light brown brogue/wingtip or a summery two-tone spectator (in this case, I would go brown and white over black and white...but, unfortunately, it's not like most of us have access to a trust fund, so whichever you have will usually do the trick).
The white brogues above are the revered Burwood made by Church's of England. Not cheap, but worth every penny (I have a pair in blue and white. Yep, they're making them for ladies now, too!)
A shoe like the above spectator would also look smashing paired with a seersucker suit
or jacket and slacks.
And, of course, a traditional white buck a la Paul Stuart (like the one above) is always a classic
and a must-have in any snappy man's summer wardrobe. If you're looking for a more affordable alternative, J. Crew also carries light beige (or "canvas" colored bucks for under $150)
SEERSUCKER AND TIES?
Seersucker jackets look absolutely charming paired with a shirt and tie. The most classic combination is a white button down shirt with a striped tie or bowtie (big bold stripes that are markedly wider than the seersucker stripes). Great color combinations would be red and navy, navy and yellow, navy and gold, orange and navy, green and navy. Brooks Brothers carries a range of collegiate stripe ties and bowties that make a perfect pairing for seersucker. Here are some examples:
On the flipside, a seersucker jacket can also be worn in a dashing manner without any tie at all. A simple button down shirt worn with the collar unbuttoned and no tie looks simply handsome and allows the wearer a little more freedom to experiment with the shirt color -- in addition to crisp, classic white, one could go with light blue, yellow, or even pink.
And this 'no tie' version of a seersucker jacket outfit could be worn with khakis, light colored linen trousers, well-tailored jeans, or even bermuda shorts and stylish deck shoes or saddle shoes.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
"Mommy Belly" Solutions
Q.
"I am 36 years old and after 3 kids I have the dreaded "mommy belly". I am on an exercise and diet program, but like all good programs, it is taking a while to show results. I was wondering if there was a specific cut of shirt or pant that would help me camouflage this muffin top until it is gone?"
"I am 36 years old and after 3 kids I have the dreaded "mommy belly". I am on an exercise and diet program, but like all good programs, it is taking a while to show results. I was wondering if there was a specific cut of shirt or pant that would help me camouflage this muffin top until it is gone?"
-Brandy in TX
A.
Whether you have a bit of a belly due to post pregnancy or post Pabst Blue Ribbon, choosing the right type of pants and tops is paramount.
CHOOSING PANTS:
To avoid the dreaded muffin top, it is extremely important to opt for higher waisted styles that offer support in the midriff. A great example (and this is the perfect time of year to have fun with this style) is the classic sailor pant (pictured above). This pant has a high rise, but doesn't look like some strange 1980's up-to-the-belly-button pant that would look dated and unflattering due to its tightness.
In contrast, the sailor pant has a flattering square shaped panel that sits high on the waist, holds the tummy in, and a flattering relaxed leg style that is also perfect for flattering any pear-shaped figure (although it looks great on every body type).
Lauren by Ralph Lauren makes excellent sailor pants at reasonable prices -- many times they can be found on sale at the Ralph Lauren outlet stores or at ralphlauren.com. I LIVE in sailor pants and have several pair in whites and navy that I wear continuously throughout the summer.
Because they have that cute, nautical button pattern at the tummy, sailor pants are meant to be worn with tucked in shirts -- and they look best with classic, short sleeved button-down shirts or polos. Adding a blouse with a little body in the sleeves (poufy sleeves, ruffled sleeves) will help balance out a pear-shaped figure. The pants can also be worn with halter tops and tank tops.
NOT YOUR DAUGHTER'S JEANS:
Notorious for being extremely challenging for the full-bellied, jeans are one of the MOST difficult garments to find if you're over 30 and not a stick figure (once again, I'm speaking from experience here!).
Most importanly, you must AVOID all low-rise jeans, no matter how "cute" or "butt-lifting" you think they are. If they don't hit just below your belly button at the waist, they aren't for you.
Enter the miracle brand, Not Your Daughter's Jeans (aka NYDJ), whose sole purpose is to defy gravity by lifting the rear and sucking in the tummy. The jeans come in many colors and styles, but every pair is made to flatter a woman's figure (not a teenager's figure, like 99% of the denim out there).
NYDJ also offers a limited selection of figure flattering tops, mostly classic button-down styles (some with ruffles, all are cute) that would look dynamite with both the sailor pants or jeans discussed above.
NYDJ also offers a limited selection of figure flattering tops, mostly classic button-down styles (some with ruffles, all are cute) that would look dynamite with both the sailor pants or jeans discussed above.
CHOOSING TOPS:
One of my biggest pet peeves about fashion sites out there offering advice on how to camouflage a bulging belly is the suggestion that the wearer try trapeze tops (tops that are fitted up top and flare out at the bottom and hit low on the hip). Sure, trapeze tops fit loosely around the belly, but what ends up happening is that the wearer looks like they're trying to hide something or WORSE, like they are pregnant when they aren't -- and I know the last thing a postpartum mom wants is to still look pregnant.
Here's an example of a trapeze top:
The thing that I find wrong with the above style is that it neglects to hug the curves of her body at its smallest point, the waist, and draws the eye down to the widest part of her, the belly and hips.
OPT FOR TOPS LIKE THESE INSTEAD:
Halter tops or tank tops (like the style above) that have a ruched or pleated panel in the midsection offer a bit of extra support in the belly -- especially in cotton with a little bit of stretch.
What makes this style much more flattering than a trapeze style is that the tank top hugs the curves and shows off the smallest part of a woman's body -- the area just below the bust to the natural waist.
TUMMY-FLATTERING DRESSES:
Another tummy flattening style is a classic belted shirt-dress like the one above. What makes it magical is that it cinches in at the waist, again, drawing the eye to the most narrow part of a woman's figure, while at the same time, lightly skimming the belly. The body of the cotton fabric is also thicker than the cheap nylon/polyester/jersey that many bargain dresses are made from and that show every bulge and wiggle. The key to getting the fit right with a belted shirt-dress is to MAKE SURE that you buy a big enough size to accommodate your bust and your tummy. There should be NO GAPPING in any of the buttons, especially around the bust and the area around your tummy should fit loosely, but not to point of looking like maternity wear. There should not be tons of extra fabric wrinkling around the back or waist when the belt is cinched.
If you can't seem to find a size that fits the bust and the tummy/hips equally, buy the bigger size and for a few extra dollars at your local dry cleaner or tailor, have it taken in at the area in question. I do this ALL THE TIME and it really ends up being worth it to have an item fit perfectly -- even if you have to spend and extra $10 or $20. The number of times you will end up wearing something that fits you to a T will make a few extra dollars at the tailor WELL WORTH IT.
I can hardly talk about tummy-flattering styles without mentioning the ultimate: the Diane von Furstenberg style wrap dress. This ubiquitous classic has allowed its wearers to instantly drop 10 pounds since the 1970's.
For those who are bashful of belly roll, just make sure that you choose a wrap dress that is a thicker fabric, not a super light weight jersey, so that any bulges or jelly rolls stay at bay. And if you're not sure, there's always Spanx -- just make sure to buy Spanx 2 sizes larger than what the package says or else some of your digestive system could end up in your chest cavity (again, been there, done that - not pretty!).
Hope this helps, Brandy. Please feel free to add any follow-up questions or comments to this post (that goes for anyone with questions/comments).
Thanks for trusting Instant Stylist with your fashion dilemma!
Hope this helps, Brandy. Please feel free to add any follow-up questions or comments to this post (that goes for anyone with questions/comments).
Thanks for trusting Instant Stylist with your fashion dilemma!
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Mini Skirts: Age Limit? Length Guideline?
"I am tall, 5’10” to be exact, and I am wondering if there is a limit on the length of skirts I should be wearing. I see in fashion magazines all the time of these tall, slender women wearing short almost “babydoll” or “mini” dresses and I think they are adorable, but when I buy something similar and get it home, I feel like I am a 32 year old woman trying to be 22. When is it okay to be sexy and show some leg and when is it too much? I guess my question is a 2 part question…1) Am I too old to wear a mini dress and 2) How short is too short for someone tall like me?"
- Shiloh, Dallas, TX
A.
Full disclosure: Shiloh, the writer of the above question, is my sister and, unlike me, has a very tall, slender, leggy figure. Since I'm the first-born and 5-foot-4 on a good day, I always joke that I saved all the nutrients in our moms womb for her! Also, one of my very favorite people on the planet, my niece Madeline (Shiloh's daughter), took the picture. Great job, Madeline!!!
ON SKIRT LENGTH:
Funny enough, this exact dilemma was covered yesterday morning on the Today show at the end of a segment featuring the Editor-at-Large from Glamour magazine Suze Yalof Schwartz. Her 'rule of thumb' (pun intended) is that a mini skirt's hem should not be any shorter than a wearer's thumb when the hands are at the side. I actually think, however, that you have to see the wearer and the garment and that rules like that don't always apply across the board. Plus, the thumb line can be pretty short.
For example, the wearer's legs make a huge difference in whether a mini dress or skirt makes you look fabulous or half-naked. Take Real Housewife of New York City Kelly Bensimon, for instance (I can hear your eyes rolling now -- c'mon bear with me here, we're talking about LEGS). As a tan, statuesque former model, her style is synonymous with mini skirts. Are her skirts, shorts, and dresses a tad too short sometimes? Sure. But does she have great legs and all the business in the world rocking a style that shows off her inherent gam glory: Absolutely!
Take a gander yourself (I'm not crazy about the T-shirt/skirt combo, but this is a good example for legs):
On the flipside, for someone whose legs aren't their best feature (yes, I unfortunately fall into this category, but so did Jackie Kennedy and she knew how to make the most of it), I would forgo mini styles and make the just-above-the-knee length your shortest point and do not pair with chunky boots-- ever. That style is only for the lithe!
Want proof?
In Shiloh's case (the very top photo of this post), the dress that she is calling "mini" really is a pretty modest mini dress. The length looks good on her, her legs look fantastic, and it looks completely age appropriate. Well done, Shiloh!
I'd like to point out that the seam above the bust, is an especially good style for people who have a long torso because the seam and the belted empire waist give the illusion of a shorter torso. This feature can also help lengthen the leg line (which does not need to apply to Shiloh, but can be helpful for those of us who have shorter stems).
ON AGE & MINI SKIRTS:
To use her as an example yet again, Kelly Bensimon is 40 years old and not slowing down when it comes to donning miniskirts. I don't think there should be any hard and fast rule about not wearing something after a certain age. The key is being honest with yourself about how you look in it (and if you don't know for sure, to have the savvy to ask Instant Stylist, of course).
Let's go over some very obvious (but perhaps easy to forget) points:
- Miniskirts and obvious varicose and/or spider veins are not a good combination
- Ditto for cellulite (speaking from experience)
- When your legs are pale or not in the best shape, you're more likely to look half-naked when wearing very short styles.
- Looking really young from the back and then turning around and looking markedly older from the front scares people (but this is not likely to be a problem in someone's 30's and early to mid 40's; more like in someone's 50's and 60's -- and I see examples of this on Madison Avenue almost daily. Freaks me out!)
When you're wearing a style that could possibly be construed as 'young,' it's important to pair it with elements (any of these: shoes/bag/earrings/necklace) that are more mature. In other words, if you're 32 and wearing a babydoll dress, choose smart platform sandals or strappy heels or very smart flats rather than converse or round-toed mary janes (which would be more appropriate for someone 22 than 32).
And if you ever feel too self-conscious about a short style, you can always modest it up by running out to American Apparel and grabbing a pair of little cotton shorts to put underneath. That way, if your style is very short, you don't have to worry about your cooch making an uninvited cameo!
So, for Shiloh, 32 years old with long legs that are in great shape, I would say that when it comes to mini skirt styles, knock yourself out and stop some traffic while you're at it, too!
Hope this helps answer your question, Shiloh. Feel free to comment on my answer or to ask follow up questions by clicking on 'comments.' In fact, anyone can post comments.
FOLLOW UP COMMENTS/UPDATE:
Just wanted to add a follow-up comment to this mini skirt post because there is an interesting article on the front page of The New York Times Thursday Styles section today (5/27/10) by Ruth La Ferla titled, "A Long, Lean Backlash To the Mini" that says "Young women are turning away from the frivolity and calculated provocation of a thigh-high skirt." Hmmmmm.
This is, of course, not to say that mini skirts are 'out of style' or should be donated in short little mountains, but it is interesting to read about nonetheless. And if you can't really carry a mini skirt, like me, there's a little bit of schadenfreude there for the 'graceful of gams' set. (Enter evil laugh, "bwa haha haha hahaha" here).
Funny enough, this exact dilemma was covered yesterday morning on the Today show at the end of a segment featuring the Editor-at-Large from Glamour magazine Suze Yalof Schwartz. Her 'rule of thumb' (pun intended) is that a mini skirt's hem should not be any shorter than a wearer's thumb when the hands are at the side. I actually think, however, that you have to see the wearer and the garment and that rules like that don't always apply across the board. Plus, the thumb line can be pretty short.
For example, the wearer's legs make a huge difference in whether a mini dress or skirt makes you look fabulous or half-naked. Take Real Housewife of New York City Kelly Bensimon, for instance (I can hear your eyes rolling now -- c'mon bear with me here, we're talking about LEGS). As a tan, statuesque former model, her style is synonymous with mini skirts. Are her skirts, shorts, and dresses a tad too short sometimes? Sure. But does she have great legs and all the business in the world rocking a style that shows off her inherent gam glory: Absolutely!
Take a gander yourself (I'm not crazy about the T-shirt/skirt combo, but this is a good example for legs):
On the flipside, for someone whose legs aren't their best feature (yes, I unfortunately fall into this category, but so did Jackie Kennedy and she knew how to make the most of it), I would forgo mini styles and make the just-above-the-knee length your shortest point and do not pair with chunky boots-- ever. That style is only for the lithe!
Want proof?
In Shiloh's case (the very top photo of this post), the dress that she is calling "mini" really is a pretty modest mini dress. The length looks good on her, her legs look fantastic, and it looks completely age appropriate. Well done, Shiloh!
I'd like to point out that the seam above the bust, is an especially good style for people who have a long torso because the seam and the belted empire waist give the illusion of a shorter torso. This feature can also help lengthen the leg line (which does not need to apply to Shiloh, but can be helpful for those of us who have shorter stems).
ON AGE & MINI SKIRTS:
To use her as an example yet again, Kelly Bensimon is 40 years old and not slowing down when it comes to donning miniskirts. I don't think there should be any hard and fast rule about not wearing something after a certain age. The key is being honest with yourself about how you look in it (and if you don't know for sure, to have the savvy to ask Instant Stylist, of course).
Let's go over some very obvious (but perhaps easy to forget) points:
- Miniskirts and obvious varicose and/or spider veins are not a good combination
- Ditto for cellulite (speaking from experience)
- When your legs are pale or not in the best shape, you're more likely to look half-naked when wearing very short styles.
- Looking really young from the back and then turning around and looking markedly older from the front scares people (but this is not likely to be a problem in someone's 30's and early to mid 40's; more like in someone's 50's and 60's -- and I see examples of this on Madison Avenue almost daily. Freaks me out!)
When you're wearing a style that could possibly be construed as 'young,' it's important to pair it with elements (any of these: shoes/bag/earrings/necklace) that are more mature. In other words, if you're 32 and wearing a babydoll dress, choose smart platform sandals or strappy heels or very smart flats rather than converse or round-toed mary janes (which would be more appropriate for someone 22 than 32).
And if you ever feel too self-conscious about a short style, you can always modest it up by running out to American Apparel and grabbing a pair of little cotton shorts to put underneath. That way, if your style is very short, you don't have to worry about your cooch making an uninvited cameo!
So, for Shiloh, 32 years old with long legs that are in great shape, I would say that when it comes to mini skirt styles, knock yourself out and stop some traffic while you're at it, too!
FOLLOW UP COMMENTS/UPDATE:
Just wanted to add a follow-up comment to this mini skirt post because there is an interesting article on the front page of The New York Times Thursday Styles section today (5/27/10) by Ruth La Ferla titled, "A Long, Lean Backlash To the Mini" that says "Young women are turning away from the frivolity and calculated provocation of a thigh-high skirt." Hmmmmm.
This is, of course, not to say that mini skirts are 'out of style' or should be donated in short little mountains, but it is interesting to read about nonetheless. And if you can't really carry a mini skirt, like me, there's a little bit of schadenfreude there for the 'graceful of gams' set. (Enter evil laugh, "bwa haha haha hahaha" here).
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Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Summer Top Question
Yay! My first fashion question:
Q.
"I have a petite curvy figure with a fairly large bust. In the summer, I often wear camisoles and bustier tops, but hate the way they make me look too full on top. What kind of summer top would look best on me?"
- Jen, NYC
A.
This is a problem I can completely relate to!!! I have the exact same issue myself. What I have found after trial and error is that the best summer tops for me are high neck halter tops because they hug my curves (cinching my waist and showing off my shape) while also holding the bust in and containing the boob spillage that usually accompanies my wearing of bustier tops or scoop neck camisoles.
Check out this (embarrassing) picture of myself that I HATE, which shows why large busted ladies should save bustier style tops for either burlesque or the bedroom (yes, even Instant Stylist has occasional lapses in judgment -- learn from my mistakes!):
Now here is the kind of high neck halter top that I would suggest for Jen (and for myself):
Q.
"I have a petite curvy figure with a fairly large bust. In the summer, I often wear camisoles and bustier tops, but hate the way they make me look too full on top. What kind of summer top would look best on me?"
- Jen, NYC
A.
This is a problem I can completely relate to!!! I have the exact same issue myself. What I have found after trial and error is that the best summer tops for me are high neck halter tops because they hug my curves (cinching my waist and showing off my shape) while also holding the bust in and containing the boob spillage that usually accompanies my wearing of bustier tops or scoop neck camisoles.
Check out this (embarrassing) picture of myself that I HATE, which shows why large busted ladies should save bustier style tops for either burlesque or the bedroom (yes, even Instant Stylist has occasional lapses in judgment -- learn from my mistakes!):
Now here is the kind of high neck halter top that I would suggest for Jen (and for myself):
Email Your Questions
I am working on creating a forum/bulletin board that you can directly post your questions on, but until then, you can email me your fashion/style questions at instantstylist@gmail.com and I'll post them and answer them on the blog. Please specify whether you want to be anonymous or if you don't mind having your first name and city used.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Instant Stylist to the Rescue!
Q. Does this dress make my butt look fat?
Q. Where can I buy spectator oxfords?
Q. Does this tie go with this shirt and suit?
Q. Should I wear a disco jumpsuit on a first date?
Q. What hat style looks best on me?
Get instant answers to all your fashion questions and dilemmas from Instant Stylist. No need to ask friends, boyfriends, husbands, girlfriends, or colleagues, who we love, but whose advice is not always, shall we say, objective, honest, or reliable. Now, you can ask Instant Stylist -- your go-to place for fast, FREE, expert style advice!
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Q. Where can I buy spectator oxfords?
Q. Does this tie go with this shirt and suit?
Q. Should I wear a disco jumpsuit on a first date?
Q. What hat style looks best on me?
Get instant answers to all your fashion questions and dilemmas from Instant Stylist. No need to ask friends, boyfriends, husbands, girlfriends, or colleagues, who we love, but whose advice is not always, shall we say, objective, honest, or reliable. Now, you can ask Instant Stylist -- your go-to place for fast, FREE, expert style advice!
Feel free to post your style inquiries along with photos of items/styles in question. You can use your name or post anonymously -- it's up to you.
Browse the blog to see past Q and A sessions or create new ones.
And you don't have to keep Instant Stylist a secret. Tell your friends, sisters, brothers, moms, dads, uncles, that weird guy that lives in apartment 3A (okay, maybe not him!). But feel free to Tweet, blog, FB chat, email, gab, chatter, flap your gums, yak, or yammer about Instant Stylist. We're here to solve the fashion crises of the world -- one dilemma at a time.
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